This week had been so exhausting arggggh… Unilag will not finish me, i will finish Unilag i repeat. Because what’s all this stress??
Welcome back to my blog dears. I’m trying my possible best to juggle school with writing my blog post. Trust me, it’s not as easy as you think.
Most of my male friends are always complaining that i have too many female friends, some even call me a lesbian because of the way i hype my girl friends lol…. Friendships are ever-changing, evolving and are so personal and different but for me, female friendships have always been so important to me. I am lucky to have had and still have some amazing women in my life who inspire me and also bring me so much happiness. However, it is also important to understand the fact that it is okay people change over time and as we age, our time with friends tends to decrease as life responsibilities take over and we find ourselves too busy to hang out and spend time laughing or playing around. It is important to our development that we have good friends and people we can trust. As a young adult, we tend to choose friendships that promote fun and excitement.
These are the girls you’d see me with most of the time. I don’t joke with Newness and Mofe.
My closest friends are ones I see occasionally. I value quality time more than I value quantity. They are the type of friends I can tell anything, act crazy with and that I choose to spend most of my time around. My clique of friends are the craziest ones. I actually love keeping crazy friends, because they keep me laughing always. I can’t stay angry with these ones, because they always find ways to keep me happy.
PHOTO CREDIT – MOFE ❤
THESE ARE SOME OF THE REASONS WHY I VALUE FEMALE FRIENDSHIP.
While it’s important to develop a healthy self-esteem, we all have those days when we don’t feel too great about ourselves. From lifting you up when you’re feeling insecure about your own abilities for speaking up for you when someone is talking you down, you know your girlfriends will always have your back no matter what. And it’s not always in times of serious insecurities that we need our squad to back us up. Sometimes we are just overly critical of ourselves and about the weirdest things, but just try telling your female friends that you’re having a bad day or anything else that sounds like it (may not possibly be a thing, but sometimes it totally is). They’ll immediately jump to your defense and shut that kind of negativity off until you end up feeling great about ourselves.
THE SHARED EXPERIENCES.
Sometimes, it’s good to know that you’re not the only one going through certain experiences in this phase in life. Just knowing that someone feels the same way about the way you do can be so positive and affirming.
YOU ALWAYS GET THE IDEA OF WHAT IS NORMAL AND WHAT’S NOT.
Sometimes, something happens that you play down because you’re sure it happens to everyone, and you only realise its not normal when you tell someone else. It could be someone sending you a creepy message, or behaviour that rubs you the wrong way. You feel uncomfortable, and then you ignore your instincts, because you’re sure that this is normal behaviour, and you’re just over thinking it. After all, you don’t want to be ‘that’ girl. Sometimes we go against our gut feeling and accept things that are not “ok”. But your female friends will be right behind you, helping you pick up the cues you missed or ignored. This is really important, as missing those cues can affect your personal well-being.
THE GAINED RESPECT.
The most important part of this friendship is the respect. Most females tend to respect themselves in a relationship. As someone who values female friendship, I tend to give the respect due to my friends, because they deserve it.
My female friendship have been some of the most fulfilling relationships of my life, and I never saw the positive aspects of media reflecting that. I am so grateful for my female friendship because without them I assume I would be much more miserable and allover worse person.
WHAT’S YOUR OPINION ON FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS?
WHAT OTHER VALUES DO THEY ADD TO YOUR LIFE?
ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR YOUR FEMALE FRIENDS?
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