What people don’t get about introverted personality.

This whole week has been a helluva week for me. I just thought you should know. Not just because I’m working or sumn, but staying at home has been so frustrating. It’s just sad that I get to have fun only once a week.
Okay, let’s focus on why we are here.

Being an introvert is nothing new or uncommon. Introverted personalities tend to be quiet, satisfied with self and focusing on their own interests, thoughts and feelings. They are often viewed as people who are contented with solitude.

I love books, music, food and being comfortable. Being stressed is one thing I hate (nobody actually likes being stressed). I enjoy spending time with few close people rather than big group of strangers – my friends can testify to that. In other words, I’m your classic, textbook introvert.

Despite this, I feel like being an extrovert is considered the right way to be in any kind of situation, and some people are always confused when they meet someone who is not.

Well, these are the few things I feel need to get straight.

1. Introverts are not broken and don’t need to be fixed.

Introversion is often treated as something that needs to be overcome. But introversion isn’t something we need to ‘get over’. The actual problems that needs to be addressed are social anxiety and extreme shyness, particularly if they result in distress or impairment in daily life. These things should be addressed in a compassionate and professional way, and not forcing them to be who they are not. We don’t need to be remolded into extroverts.

2. Calling instead of texting.

I actually thought phone calls were just to comfirm certain things. For me, phone calls are like pure torture. Like I’m always shaky when my phone rings out of blue, I get no time to mentally prepare for what I’m going to say. I’m that type of person you call and doesn’t pick, and still text you “you called”?
A text on the other hand, waits politely for a response and allows us to interact with others on terms that are more manageable for easily overstimulated introverts. Plus we tend to feel more comfortable expressing our thoughts in texting than saying them loud.

3. Doing nothing is a solid plan.

When we tell you we’re doing nothing, I don’t actually mean it. I’d rather stay up in my bed, reading a book or watching a good movie than go out with you. If you really want to hang out with an introvert, tell them beforehand or ask them when they’ll be available. You can’t just ask them when they are unprepared.

4. Being asked ” why are you so quiet”.

This question is actually pointless and sometimes seems rude. What possible answer can someone have for this? Is there anything wrong with being quiet? When asked this question, I will always put up a smile because I don’t know how on earth I am meant to answer.

If you’re seeking a conversation with an introvert, show geniune interest and ask them almost anything. Ask them how their day went, their hobbies, what they do for a living. If you spark their interest, you’ll find out that they’re not quiet after all.

5. Introverts are not afraid of popularity or public speaking.

Well I can say I am, to an extent though. But not all introverts hate addressing a large crowd. We may not like being put on the  spot and being asked to give impromptu speeches. But that’s only because we feel uncomfortable sharing our thoughts before we’ve had a chances to reflect on them first. And it’s actually not bad, it can make for a well thought out speech.

6. Large parties, networking events and loud restaurants/bars/club.

Introverts can and do socialize. In fact, we have strong relationships and deep connections too, otherwise we’ll feel lonely. It’s human nature after all, to want to feel connected to others.

When we hangout, we do it on a purpose, we want to make a friend, make a business connection or meet our soulmate. At the very least, we’re looking for a meaningful conversation. Anything less than that doesn’t make sense.

Yes people sometimes label us as antisocial, but there’s sometimes no better company than your own.

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  1. donald Assam January 25, 2019 at 10:38 am

    This is an article that can help eradicate this “weirdo” tag people have placed on introverts. Thank you for this.

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    1. Tz January 25, 2019 at 10:42 am

      I swear, esp that ‘why are you so quite’ typa questions 😂😂 its really annoying

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      1. Mo's blog January 25, 2019 at 11:10 am

        I actually get pissed. Like being quiet is a bad thing.

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    2. Mo's blog January 25, 2019 at 11:10 am

      You’re welcome Donald😊

      Reply
  2. Adelabu adedeji January 25, 2019 at 10:38 am

    Awww

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  3. Tz January 25, 2019 at 10:40 am

    Very brilliant layo, a very educative set piece. I think I’ll share this to some friends who thinks being an introvert is lame or dumb like some even sees it as a disease or illness. Funny. But I so love this write up, speaks more and more about me. It’s nice to see introverts this days stand up and say no, am proud of this thing you can a thing, its my choice and I stand for it. People tend to castigate and all but I do t think it has ever dawn to me to feel pressure to listening to them or settling for mediocre. I remember a friend of my telling me she’ll break our friendship if I don’t choose to be an extrovert, I just laugh it off. She later understood though but that’s the point, instead of ignoring them, enlighten them and let them know what they don’t.

    Nice one Layo. Yo defiantly doing great.

    Kisses 😘😘
    -Victor

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    1. Mo's blog January 25, 2019 at 11:09 am

      You know what, just do you. That’s actually the best thing. We don’t want these people defining how we live our lives.

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  4. Emmanuel January 25, 2019 at 10:49 am

    Perfectooo

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    1. Adema January 25, 2019 at 11:03 am

      Shottop

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    2. Mo's blog January 25, 2019 at 11:11 am

      Thank you🙏😊

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  5. Adema January 25, 2019 at 11:03 am

    This is well detailed and educative baby girl. ❤️❤️❤️Keep writing jwizy sturv

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    1. Mo's blog January 25, 2019 at 11:12 am

      Thank you very much my love❤

      Reply
  6. Chukwuyem January 25, 2019 at 11:08 am

    Nice work Molay
    I think this piece is a “need to know”.

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    1. Mo's blog January 25, 2019 at 11:12 am

      Thank you❤

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  7. Onaopemipo Sorunke January 25, 2019 at 12:47 pm

    Hmmm word there , there no better company than yours at times . Thoughtful .💪💪

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  8. Ang El👼 January 25, 2019 at 1:53 pm

    Awesome article 🙏

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  9. Joseph N January 25, 2019 at 3:42 pm

    Brilliant piece… Thumbs up!

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    1. Mo's blog January 25, 2019 at 5:42 pm

      Thank you🙏

      Reply
  10. Yemi January 25, 2019 at 3:57 pm

    Nice one darling. I hope you pick calls on your birthdays sha? Looking forward to more inspirational write-ups anyway. I’m proud of you.

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    1. Mo's blog January 25, 2019 at 5:44 pm

      I pick calls😂😂 Thank you mum❤
      Thank you for taking your time to read.

      Reply
  11. R.S.F January 25, 2019 at 6:43 pm

    A great one. Thanks for coming up with this piece.

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    1. Mo's blog January 26, 2019 at 8:32 pm

      You’re most welcome.

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  12. Olajuwon January 25, 2019 at 8:24 pm

    Pretty nice sturv. Keep them coming in girl. ❤️

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  13. dawealth January 25, 2019 at 11:23 pm

    Nice piece layo 👌

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  14. Adesanya O. January 26, 2019 at 1:40 pm

    Good writeup. One thing I know about introvert people is that they are great thinkers. And great inventions preceeded by profound thoughts and actions.

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  15. Odunayo January 26, 2019 at 5:49 pm

    I marvel at your literary prowess and ingenuity. Bravo!

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    1. Mo's blog January 26, 2019 at 8:31 pm

      Thank you very much🙏

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  16. Gloria February 15, 2019 at 4:38 pm

    I’m not an introvert but that part about being nervous and not picking calls I’m very well guilty😂 is it possible to be an introvert and extrovert at the same time 🤔 Don’t mind me…. Nice write-up Molayo ❤❤

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    1. Mo's blog February 15, 2019 at 6:01 pm

      It is oo… That’s called an Ambivert girllll😌

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