This whole week has been a helluva week for me. I just thought you should know. Not just because I’m working or sumn, but staying at home has been so frustrating. It’s just sad that I get to have fun only once a week.
Okay, let’s focus on why we are here.
Being an introvert is nothing new or uncommon. Introverted personalities tend to be quiet, satisfied with self and focusing on their own interests, thoughts and feelings. They are often viewed as people who are contented with solitude.
I love books, music, food and being comfortable. Being stressed is one thing I hate (nobody actually likes being stressed). I enjoy spending time with few close people rather than big group of strangers – my friends can testify to that. In other words, I’m your classic, textbook introvert.
Despite this, I feel like being an extrovert is considered the right way to be in any kind of situation, and some people are always confused when they meet someone who is not.
Well, these are the few things I feel need to get straight.
1. Introverts are not broken and don’t need to be fixed.
Introversion is often treated as something that needs to be overcome. But introversion isn’t something we need to ‘get over’. The actual problems that needs to be addressed are social anxiety and extreme shyness, particularly if they result in distress or impairment in daily life. These things should be addressed in a compassionate and professional way, and not forcing them to be who they are not. We don’t need to be remolded into extroverts.
2. Calling instead of texting.
I actually thought phone calls were just to comfirm certain things. For me, phone calls are like pure torture. Like I’m always shaky when my phone rings out of blue, I get no time to mentally prepare for what I’m going to say. I’m that type of person you call and doesn’t pick, and still text you “you called”?
A text on the other hand, waits politely for a response and allows us to interact with others on terms that are more manageable for easily overstimulated introverts. Plus we tend to feel more comfortable expressing our thoughts in texting than saying them loud.
3. Doing nothing is a solid plan.
When we tell you we’re doing nothing, I don’t actually mean it. I’d rather stay up in my bed, reading a book or watching a good movie than go out with you. If you really want to hang out with an introvert, tell them beforehand or ask them when they’ll be available. You can’t just ask them when they are unprepared.
4. Being asked ” why are you so quiet”.
This question is actually pointless and sometimes seems rude. What possible answer can someone have for this? Is there anything wrong with being quiet? When asked this question, I will always put up a smile because I don’t know how on earth I am meant to answer.
If you’re seeking a conversation with an introvert, show geniune interest and ask them almost anything. Ask them how their day went, their hobbies, what they do for a living. If you spark their interest, you’ll find out that they’re not quiet after all.
5. Introverts are not afraid of popularity or public speaking.
Well I can say I am, to an extent though. But not all introverts hate addressing a large crowd. We may not like being put on the spot and being asked to give impromptu speeches. But that’s only because we feel uncomfortable sharing our thoughts before we’ve had a chances to reflect on them first. And it’s actually not bad, it can make for a well thought out speech.
6. Large parties, networking events and loud restaurants/bars/club.
Introverts can and do socialize. In fact, we have strong relationships and deep connections too, otherwise we’ll feel lonely. It’s human nature after all, to want to feel connected to others.
When we hangout, we do it on a purpose, we want to make a friend, make a business connection or meet our soulmate. At the very least, we’re looking for a meaningful conversation. Anything less than that doesn’t make sense.
Yes people sometimes label us as antisocial, but there’s sometimes no better company than your own.
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