Hey guysssssss, how’s this week going? It’s day 6 of the writing challenge, and I’m so excited I’m keeping up. Today’s topic is ‘opinion’.
We all have an opinion on something. We have opinions on politics, people, places. You name it, and someone will have an opinion on it. But there is only one opinion that matters. The opinion you have of yourself. And even that doesn’t matter too much.
Look, opinions are fickle. They can change in an instant. Like how some people feel happier about their lives when the sun is out. The dictionary defines an opinion as ‘a thought or belief or ‘judgement’ about something or someone. An opinion may not even be based on facts. So why do we get so concerned about someone else’s opinion of us?
Other people’s opinion.
The opinion someone has of you can be based on one encounter, or many. It doesn’t matter what it is based on. That opinion is going to be based on very little information in comparison to the complex person you really are. You have more depth in you than a few encounters will ever reveal. There is even more depth in you that you might not even be aware of yet. There’s certainly more depth in you than can be written in 1 word, or 100, or 1,000.
These past few days my opinion on that has even changed. Which, before we go any further, says it all really. Opinions change.
Everyone Has An Opinion And Thinks It Is The Opinion That Matters.
We can’t help it. We all think that our opinion on things is the only opinion that matters. It’s in our nature. It’s what gives rise to debates, arguments, fights. When our opinion clashes with that of another.
The problem with today’s world is that it is so easy for everyone to voice that opinion. We have the internet, social media, smart phones. We put our opinions out there and when challenged on them become defensive. Even when presented with facts contradictory to our opinions we have the old fallback of ‘well, it’s my opinion’. As if that justifies it. It does. But only to the person saying it.
Opinions are easily swayed.
Do you know how easy it is to change a person’s opinion? It can be done with something as simple as a hot drink or the right word. That’s how fickle opinions are. That’s why you shouldn’t care so much about someone else’s opinion of you.
Obviously, some opinions are much harder to sway, are more ingrained in the person that holds them, but it is clear we can be easily manipulated into thinking or behaving a certain way.
“Opinions are the cheapest commodities on earth. Everyone has a flock of opinions ready to be wished upon anyone who will accept them. If you are influenced by “opinions” when you reach decisions, you will not succeed in any undertaking”.
Napoleon Hill ‘Think and Grow Rich’
Your Opinion Of Yourself Is The Only Opinion That Matters.
People are always going to have an opinion of you. Let them. It doesn’t matter. Someone else’s opinion of you is just their reality. Don’t let their reality be your reality. They don’t know you. You probably don’t even know yourself completely. There might be more to you that you have yet to discover. Value your opinion of yourself more than anyone else’s. But realise that even that may be susceptible to change.
Don’t take anyone’s opinion to heart. Even your own opinion shouldn’t be taken so seriously. As stated, Opinions change. They can change because new information has come to light. They can change because you realise something new about yourself. They can change because you can change.
Even I have changed. The person I was a year ago is far removed from the person I am now. I’m still not perfect though. No one is, or ever will be. I can be loving and kind. I can also be otherwise. Whatever day you meet me on will determine your opinion of me.
The only difference now is that I know it really doesn’t matter. It doesn’t even matter if you disagree with my opinion on opinions. The irony of this opinionated article about opinions is not lost on me. Thing is, I’m sure of what opinion matters to me and you should be too. Your own.
I’m not saying be egotistical. I’m not saying not to listen to someone else’s opinion. What I am saying is that opinion, is only that. An opinion. That doesn’t mean it’s true. it doesn’t mean it should matter to you.
In the grand scheme of things it means very little. So don’t let someone’s opinion of you get you down. Don’t dwell on it or even give it another moments thought. There’s only one opinion that matters. And it only really matters to you. Your own opinion of yourself.1