Hi guys, welcome to my blog!!! Happy Valentine in advance dears. Love is in the air! But the girl here has her nose covered with a nose mask. I’m not breathing this air. At least not yet lol.
I don’t know, but this Valentine’s day isn’t a big deal to me, maybe because I’m not with anyone yet. Asides that I also think people shouldn’t wait for a particular day to express their love for one another.
I personally think people do too much for this day. I don’t just get what the buzz is all about.
First of allll, my love life is not remotely interesting. I’m no good when it comes to relationships. Frankly, being single sucks at times, especially this romantic season. Valentine is this Thursday, and I already know my timeline will be filled with relationship goals hash-tagging, gifts, people expressing their love to one another, pictures everywhere. Honestly, I’m not ready for all that. I will just curl up in my bed all day and watch Power (I’m just starting 😥) or read books. I don’t like emotional stress biko.
Let me keep it 100% with you guys. I’m as single as a dollar and I’m not looking for a change. I actually prefer being single. I don’t have to make someone my priority, or thinking of someone everyday. Some of my friends try to pressure me to get a guy. Y’all should chill out, I’m not settling. At least not yet. I still want to enjoy my single life a little bit. Since I have been single, I have learnt a lot of things. I know what i want, i have a lot of time to learn and work on myself. What I am passionate about? What I want and need? What I won’t accept? I value myself so much more and the way I treat myself will show the next guy how to treat me. I also learned to love and appreciate myself more while being single.
Most of the time, singles are always accused of being boring, a prude, too shy, old fashioned. The list could go on. But we’re none of these things. A part of me feels like I shouldn’t even have to explain myself, but there’s only so many sympathetic talks/looks and the typical ‘awww don’t worry, you’ll find someone soon”, “the right one is out there”. I never said I was looking FAM!.
There was I time I was out with my friends, and I got talking with this guy. We got deep into the conversation and the next thing he asked was, do you have a boyfriend? I smiled whilst struggling the words out of my mouth. Eventually I replied with a simple no. One that felt like forever. Then the look came, as it always does, one of sympathy. I just excused myself and went to join my friends. I came here for fun and not to be pitied. The funniest thing is that, he was trying to talk me into a relationship with him, like bringing the “I like you and I want you to be my girlfriend”. I was like, in how many days???
Being single doesn’t mean we’re dead to the world, and it doesn’t mean we know nothing about love. It’s not as if we’ve never been in a relationship before. Some of us just prefer happiness to heartbreaks, which most of us have experienced.
Relationships aren’t key to all happiness, they are just part of our personal journey. I will not be single forever, but what’s important is that I want to be comfortable with myself and whether I’m seeing someone has never factored into it.
What are your thoughts on being single?
What have you learned as a single person?
How do you feel about Valentine’s day?
Do you feel someone would just outlaw it already?
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