Body shaming according to Google, is the practice of making critical, potentially humiliating comments about a person’s body size or weight.
Society has managed to find ample of interesting ways to express what they feel about someone’s body. You see a lot of controversies on the social media, people happily insulting strangers at their armchair. Like you can’t even say these things in front of them. You’re not God, you did not create these people. Some even go as far as questioning them that why didn’t your parents control this fatness when you were a child? You can’t body shame someone and still bring their parents in, this is very rude. Keep your negativity to yourself!! Even some of these advertisements that goes around still has a little bit of negativity. Where they tell people how to get slim in how many weeks, or how to get that perfect body. Some of them even use fat women for jokes at times.
You’ll hear words like, Try doing some cardio. Your belly button looks weird, probably because of your flab by tummy. This is huge on me, maybe it’ll fit you. Better lose some weight, you know we’re going to the beach soon. You’re too short. You’re too tall. Your boobs are small. You’ve got a flat ass. You’re too thin, do you eat at all?. Even those that are thick and curvy get body shamed, they’re always termed as hoes. Sometimes I wonder what exactly these people want.
As women, we put some much pressure on ourselves to look the way the society expects us to. We have to dress, fix our hair, our makeup, our eyebrows, the way the magazines and television shows tells us to. If we don’t, we’re no longer considered attractive, but alter native, non-traditional, rebellious, revolutionary, and that’s just twisted. It’s not natural.
The society never gets satisfied, even if you’re super curvy, skinny, black, white, albino or whatsoever. They’re going to find some or other reasons to tell you their opinions about you. Then the cycle of self assessment starts. You see yourself through their eyes and start feeling negative about you, feel shit about you, assume that you are ugly or imperfect. Now you have this negativity for your own self, which ultimately hinders you from focusing on more important aspects as your mental health, your positivity, your love for your own self and most importantly, your self confidence. Your body is the house you grew up in, how dare you try to burn it to the ground.
In this circle, you need to understand that you are loosing your opinion and self confidence. The question is, is it worth losing it for? Now, there is the other way round, you neglect others opinion and continue loving yourself as you are. You’re comfortable in your own skin the way it is and you fall in love more and more. Once you’re in love with your body, automatically you build your self confidence, and find ways to be a better you. We need to learn to brag about what makes us great and stop complaining about our imagined flaws.
To the body shamers, I want you to know that being fat does not mean they’re ugly, lazy, unhealthy, worthless. And being skinny does not mean they have eating disorder, it doesn’t mean they’re made to look that way, it doesn’t mean they’re mean to people bigger than them and it doesn’t mean they actually like being skinny. People come in different sizes and shapes and they deserve human respect. We should support loving their body.
So my dears, go to that beach! Go to that night party! Go to that social event! Wear whatever you feel like wearing! Feel free and don’t let anyone define how you live your life. This body deserves to be worshipped.
Call it a win-win way to live your life or call it living life in the way you feel best for you….. The choice is yours.
I’m not going to ask questions today, just tell me your opinions about body shaming, tell me what you feel can be done about it.
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